“My journey of how I came to know you came through your book "Wife of a CEO" that was in 2016, it came accidentally as I was surfing the internet, as I was looking for some ways to compliment my dreams and wanted reference, as I had found myself in a challenging spot that time, I had met a friend that was a male CEO and we were exploring the possibility of knowing each other and diversity of culture and the advanced Western cultures, I did not know what to expect or what to do.... okay, its fascinating but I also had to come across the fact that I did not want to loose myself or my personal dreams and ambitions, there was so much that I was afraid of and wondering why me? What did this person see in me, sometimes I would not feel comfortable. I would not know what to say or what to do and self doubt would come in and sometimes the fear of the fact that at times would feel I have dreams and me at times being ambitious at times, I would feel I sometimes stepped into wrong foot and the cultural differences and masculine expectations and feminine expectations also would give pressure and sometimes that will cause quite a rift.
Transformation in my role
By the way I am a former "hotel employee", but turned into a Personal Assistant, for the past 10 years, however, dealing with Directors and Senior Managers at work have opened some insights, but when it comes to personal relationships with someone at the level of CEO / Director, it has been quite a challenge and sometimes I feel, I overstep and at times I feel I am getting choked. Our countries teach development of a girl child and sometimes I feel confused as how to balance all that up "how do I deal with that as a woman in a relationship with a man in that position, sometimes it's not easy.
I am not married yet, but I encounter relationships like that in life and to be honest its a challenge what is my role? How do I get him to see my potential without stepping into his masculine and may be trying to an equal part? As a PA, at work I become proactive, how does everything blend or relate if I want to build a potential home with a man of that level, how do I lower my tone without reducing my personal essence. As a Christian woman and an African Woman culture has taught us humbleness, but also today's world teaches us to find "our purpose" and we taught to also be "Vessels of Honor" meaning we should carry something that we can deposit onto other people. How do I blend all that together in harmony and peace?
Your subject "I'm done with lingering for a long time", is something that I personally relate to. I have lingered, gone through, trying to find a way, questioned myself how do I go about it, if I mess all that up by my feminine ways how do I correct that.
I want to express my sincere gratitude and appreciation towards you. Thank you so much, may God bless you and give you wisdom to reach out to many Women out there, and thank you for adding me to your groups on Facebook.”